Relationships and Separation

When relationships break down

Post-separation is one of the most destabilising experiences a man can go through — not just the loss of the relationship, but the loss of routine, identity, and often daily contact with your kids.

The work here isn't about relitigating who was right. It's about understanding what happened, managing the emotional fallout, and figuring out who you are and how you show up on the other side of it.

Life Transitions and Meaning

When the path forward isn't clear

Some of the hardest moments for men aren't crises — they're transitions. Retirement after a career that gave you purpose. A shift in identity as a father, partner, or provider. The quiet realisation that the life you've built doesn't feel like yours anymore.

These are existential questions, and they deserve more than practical answers. The work here is about making meaning — understanding what matters to you, what you're grieving, and what you want to build next.

Anger and Emotional Regulation

When anger keeps getting in the way

Anger is rarely just anger. For most men, it's the surface expression of something deeper — shame, disappointment, fear, or a sense of losing control. It shows up in relationships, at work, with the kids — and it tends to cost more than it solves.

The work here isn't about suppressing anger or managing it with breathing exercises. It's about understanding what's driving it and finding a more effective way to respond to what's actually happening.

Addictive Behaviours

When coping strategies stop working

Addictive behaviours often start as a way to decompress — to take the edge off a hard day, quiet a busy mind, or feel something different for a while. Over time they can become the main strategy, and then the problem.

I work with men where addictive behaviour has become a primary way of managing stress, rather than dependence requiring medical treatment. If you're starting to notice the cost — to your relationships, your finances, your sense of self — that's worth looking at.

ADHD and Late Diagnosis

Making sense of your life through a new lens

A late ADHD diagnosis can be both a relief and a reckoning. Suddenly the job losses, the relationship difficulties, the sense of never quite living up to your potential — they make a different kind of sense. But with that clarity often comes grief. For the years lost. For the version of yourself you might have been.

This work sits at the intersection of identity and understanding — looking back with honesty and self-compassion, and looking forward with a clearer picture of how your brain actually works.

Note: I don't provide ADHD assessments or medication management. For assessment or medication, I'll work alongside your GP or psychiatrist.